A Nigerian woman has suggested some changes to be made to the bride price culture.
She explained that she is not
one of those women who call for bride price to be scraped, instead, she wants
some things about the practice to change.
She said that bride price
should be paid to the bride since she is the one who will be stuck with the
man.
She added that women should
also be the ones to dictate the content of the traditional list given to the
intending groom.
She also revealed that when her
time comes, she wants her bride price to be paid to her mum while her dad and
his brothers should be given "small ogogoro".
She wrote: "There is a
trending story of a man who was given a bride price list that was in millions.
"I know a lot of feminist
who are against the tradition of bride price... I'm not one of them.
"I love the Nigerian
tradition so much that I enjoy having cultural conversations with non Nigerians
about our traditions and culture.
"However, I would like a
little bit of changes to be done in some tradition.
"1. Bride price should be
paid to the bride herself. She would be the one that would be stuck with the
Osadebe, so why can't the money be paid to her?
"2. The traditional list
should be written and dictated by women.
"Women literally go
through gates of hell in pregnancy process and giving birth, when one man
somewhere who didn't go through body changes, virginal tear or postpartum
depression is sitting down to collect bride prize...
"Will you stand up from
that seat, Sir?!
"The tradition of bride
price was created by the patriarchy.
"Bride price was created
by men for men, so I wonder why the same men are complaining about outrageous
lists. What?
"Do you want to pay N125
to marry a woman who will go through multiple pregnancy experiences or may even
lose her life? And the children would answer your name?
"A woman that would wash,
cook, clean, nanny, and make the home comfortable while you treat her like a
subordinate?
"My dear, go and buy those
items… Are you not a traditional man again?
"Bride price should be
paid to my mom, and small ogogoro should be given to my Dad and his brothers...
"Men appreciate little
things sef so don't stress yourself because of them...
“Just small Ogogoro and put
football make them argue about Ronaldo and Messi, you're good to go.”
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