People can influence how we act, and one big reason is that when others are around, we usually expect them to act in certain ways. Different situations come with their own set of expected behaviors, and these expectations can vary from one group to another.
Think of it like this: in a
group, everyone has a specific role, kind of like characters in a story. When
you take on a role, you adjust how you act to meet the expectations that you
and others have for that role.
Social norms are the unwritten
rules about what people in a group or culture think and how they should behave.
These norms help us know what's considered acceptable and keep things organised
in society. Here are some social rules that may help you:
1. Don’t call someone more than
twice continuously. If they don’t pick up your call, presume they have something
important to attend to;
2. Return money that you have
borrowed even before the person that borrowed you remember or ask for it. It
shows your integrity and character. Same goes with umbrellas, pens and lunch
boxes.
3. Never order the expensive
dish on the menu when someone is giving you a lunch/dinner.
4. Don’t ask awkward questions
like ‘Oh so you aren’t married yet?’ Or ‘Don’t you have kids’ or ‘Why didn’t
you buy a house?’ Or why don't you buy a car? For God’s sake it isn’t your
problem;
5. Always open the door for the
person coming behind you. It doesn’t matter if it is a guy or a girl, senior or
junior. You don’t grow small by treating someone well in public;
6. If you take a taxi with a
friend and he/she pays now, try paying next time;
7. Respect different shades of
opinions. Remember what's 6 to you will appear 9 to someone facing you.
Besides, second opinion is good for an alternative;
8. Never interrupt people
talking. Allow them to pour it out. As they say, hear them all and filter them
all;
9. If you tease someone, and
they don’t seem to enjoy it, stop it and never do it again. It encourages one
to do more and it shows how appreciative you're;
10. Say “thank you” when
someone is helping you.
11. Praise publicly. Criticize
privately;
12. There’s almost never a
reason to comment on someone’s weight. Just say, “You look fantastic.” If they
want to talk about losing weight, they will;
13. When someone shows you a
photo on their phone, don’t swipe left or right. You never know what’s next;
14. If a colleague tells you
they have a doctors' appointment, don’t ask what it’s for, just say "I
hope you’re okay". Don’t put them in the uncomfortable position of having
to tell you their personal illness. If they want you to know, they'll do so
without your inquisitiveness;
15. Treat the cleaner with the
same respect as the CEO. Nobody is impressed at how rude you can treat someone
below you but people will notice if you treat them with respect;
16. If a person is speaking
directly to you, staring at your phone is rude;
17. Never give advice until
you’re asked;
18. When meeting someone after
a long time, unless they want to talk about it, don’t ask them their age and
salary;
19. Mind your business unless
anything involves you directly - just stay out of it;
20. Remove your sunglasses if
you are talking to anyone in the street. It is a sign of respect. Moreso, eye
contact is as important as your speech; and
21. Never talk about your
riches in the midst of the poor. Similarly, don't talk about your children in
the midst of the barren.
22. After reading a good
message try to say "Thanks for the message".
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