I am writing to you in order to make someone understand that it's good to appreciate our partners despite their flaws.
I am 32 years of age. My ex-husband and I dated for 6 years.
We were best of friends.
I waited until he completed college and
started work.
My family and his family then met.
We got married and had a son. (7 years old
now).
My husband was short-tempered at times but
our problems started when I wanted to make him feel he couldn't control me.
Every time we argued, I would pack my bags,
go to my family and explain.
My sisters would phone my husband and shout
at him.
If he was controlling me I would always dare
him that if he wished, he could divorce me.
I never wanted a divorce.
I just had pride and I never wanted to look
like a loose woman in his eyes.
One day I pushed him so hard that for the
first time, he beat me and locked me outside.
I went to my family, and my family took him to
the police, every time I looked like I was being abused!
But to be honest, I used to abuse my husband
emotionally.
He was arrested and detained.
I was asked by his family to withdraw the
case.
I felt that what I was doing was wrong.
My husband was never a violent man, he did
what he did because I pushed him to the wall to which he openly knelt down and
apologized.
I withdrew the charge, and we reconciled.
After three months, I packed my bags after a
small issue and he remained alone.
After two days, I received a call that he was
in the hospital.
My family told me that I shouldn't go there
because it would look like I was begging him and my sisters believed he was feigning
the illness.
All this time, people felt sorry for me like
I was the one being abused.
He spent a week in the hospital after he
came out, and I just received a divorce summons.
I wanted to say no to divorce, but because I
felt this pride, I wanted him to change his mind and beg me.
I called him and said he would get the
divorce because I lived like I was in hell.
When we went to court, I wanted to make him
pay, so I told the court that I needed his properties to be shared.
To my surprise, he openly told the court that
whatever he and I acquired together should be given to me, all he wanted was
divorce.
We were divorced in 2009 July.
Now, my husband is married, whilst l am here
wasted!
My family members are gossiping about me.
I depend on what my ex-husband gives to my
son for survival.
I know I wasted my marriage.
I am here telling all wives that they should
be careful how they get advice.
Don't be cheated, and don't entertain family
interference in your marriage, my dear reader.
Even my young sisters are much more respected
than me.
Those who encouraged me to get divorced are
now teasing and bad-mouthing me.
Please, ladies, be vigilant in your marriage.
Thought it wise to share my story to save
your marriage.
There is no benefit in pride for nothing.
Sometimes it's not the man's fault at all,
it's your pride, and the people you allowed to advise you, so be wise and
vigilant in your marriage.
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